Always
From time to time I am tempted, particularly when faced with something that I don’t like, to say, “It has always been that way.”
When I say something like, it is really an excuse not to change what is in front of me.
Really, any generalization is like this. Especially when talking about myself.
Boys never…
Girls always…
Italians are…
I have never been able to…
In my family we always/never…
When I do this I have given up my choice and given into the choice of the group.
It is just a way of taking the responsibly from myself and saying it is out of my control.
Which is not true.
Now, when I make one of those generalization I make myself add a phrase to end, “…and I consciously choose this as my reality.”
All the choices I make about the world and myself are mine.
If the choice is mine, then I can’t hide from my circumstance. I can’t be a victim.
I must be in control of my own life.
[inspired by Caroline Myss | today's prayer]